That Empty Chair at the Table (Army Wife Network)

I’ve been an army wife for what my husband commonly refers to as “a hot minute.” You would think that after all this time, I would stop being surprised at #AllTheThings that come with army wife life.

But nope. Experiences like random TDYs, changes to our no-plan-plan, promotions, future duty stations… It almost always catches me a little bit off guard. (I have grown significantly in my ability to be flexible…)

There is one aspect of the military wife life that I’ve experienced over and over again, but yet it still surprises me every.single. time. It typically occurs at the military ball. [Read more…]

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11 Ways that Being an Army Wife is Like Running a Marathon

Life is funny.

Why? Because just a few short years ago, I had two “nevers” that I (naively) thought were non-negotiable.

  1. I will NEVER love/marry/follow a man.
  2. I will NEVER run a marathon.

You can probably already see where this post is going.

Obviously, I have done both. [Read more…]

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When God Moves #WilcoWednesday

Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Share. Enjoy. Interact. And let’s respond to God’s call with  a hearty “Wilco, Lord!” Today let’s welcome my friend Shamberly as she shares her testimony about how God moved in her life– literally.

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“We’re moving WHERE??” The words stumbled out of my mouth before I could stop them, almost immediately followed by the tears I was fighting with everything in me to hold back.

My husband had walked in the door and in the time it would have taken him to say, “Hi Baby, I’m home,” and tell me about his day, he announced that he had received orders to PCS. For those who aren’t part of the military community, PCS stands for Permanent Change of Station. In other words: *home* is no longer *here* and we’d better start packing.

I’d known it was coming. We’d been at his current duty station for over 4 years, and it was definitely time. Truth be told, it wasn’t the moving that bothered me. It was where. We had been told so many possibilities in the months leading up to this moment, all of which I had thoroughly researched and mentally prepared for, but then, in true Army fashion, he came home with the news that we were going somewhere completely unforeseen. Honestly,  I was a little shell-shocked. I had done plenty of planning for all the known possibilities. I wasn’t prepared for the unexpected. [Read more…]

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In Community: Strength for the Fight #WilcoWednesday

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Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Share. Enjoy. Interact. Welcome a very Godly, loving woman, my friend Bobbie. 
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Life can be tough.

My husband doesn’t help me.  He is not present or available to the kids.  We are better off without him during deployments.  If He’s not here, we can’t expect anything of him. Work and friends have a higher priority than his family. Financially, his decisions are ruining us.  I don’t feel secure in his love for us.

In the raging battle for stable families, what happens in the home affects all of us. Single with married friends, active duty single parent, married with or without children, divorced with or without children: we have a bird’s eye view, a front row seat, or are in the battle ourselves.  The struggles are real, and the outcomes are significant. As individuals and as a community of faith, what is our response to the deep and wide heartbreak that surrounds us?  Believers are empowered to do good works, which God ordained for us before the world began (Ephesians 2:10).  How are we wielding our power? [Read more…]

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I Could Be… If Only… #WilcoWednesday

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Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Share. Enjoy. Interact. Welcome a very Godly, loving woman, my friend Bobbie. 
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The answer was always in front of them. They missed it.

What about you?

Do you suppose that getting married, reviving health, winning the lottery, having a more supportive husband, or raising perfectly behaved children will bring you greater joy or more contentment?

Many women of Scripture struggled to trust God in the difficult places of life. Their fears and hopelessness led them to do things and act in ways that sabotaged their own happiness. [Read more…]

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Home is Where Jesus Calls You

Hi friends! I am taking a quick breather from creating new material on Wednesdays as I prep for an upcoming conference and lay some foundational leadership work with a one of my local organizations. I was digging through the archives and found this post worthy of a re-share. I pray you enjoy it! Thanks for the grace. 

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You’ve probably heard your share of “homey” quotes…

“Home is where the heart is.” “Home Sweet Home.” “Home is where you hang your hat.” “There’s no place like home” (Wizard of Oz, what, what!)

Ah, home. It conjures up all sorts of apple-pie-wafting, couch-snuggling, T.G.I.F sitcom watching (does anybody else remember the T.G.I.F television programming?) images of joy. [Read more…]

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The Faith-Full Summer (Wives of Faith)

The other day, we slept with the windows open.

Upon waking, my first thought was, “It smells like summer!” 

It was a rich, fresh, exciting smell. I think if fun and rest and hope all combined and had an odor, it would be called summer.

So naturally, as I celebrated the sensation, I reflected on what summer meant to me. [Read more…]

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It’s That Time Again #WilcoWednesday

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Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Today, let’s welcome (and send-off… SIGH) my friend Jenny as she prepares for another cross country move in response to telling God “Wilco!” 

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PCS. Permanent Change of Station. To the average person, it’s just three letters, another acronym, but within the military community, those three letters carry with it, a lot of meaning and bring with it a plethora of emotions, (not to mention endless questions and concerns). In the coming months some of us will see many dear friends move on to their next duty station and have to say, “see you later…”, while others, like myself, will be the ones that have to pack up and, “go where the army send us.”

I am roughly down to the one month mark, you know, it’s when you REALLY have to get things in order, declutter, begin planning and finalizing the road-trip, not to mention– give notice to housing! It’s crunch time! Oh, how this year has flown by. This will be our 7th move in 11 years of army life, so by now, you think I’d be used to it. Does anyone ever get used to it?!

I’ve had non-military friends tell me (and I’m sure many of you have heard them too), “oh, I could never do what you do” or, “it would be so hard to move every couple of years” and “I just can’t be away from family and friends.” I agree, there’s some truth to those words. It’s not easy and it’s hard at times, but what I’ve learned and gained from those experiences thus far, I want to share with you.

Moving time

God is for us.

God will not take you somewhere and abandon you there. “…the Lord goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Deut. 31:6. He goes before us and provides what we need, in His perfect time. He always has. Think of how He constantly, miraculously provided for the Israelites in the desert (for 40 yrs) even with their constant temper tantrums and complaints!

I’ve never regretted being at a place He has sent us. Yes, the Californian in me complained when I first found out that Alaska would be our first overseas assignment (didn’t everyone get to go to Germany or some other exotic locale as their first overseas assignment?!). Let me also say that my first few months there felt like we were abandoned at the other end of the world, (a very dark, very cold, very lonely world). That was a pretty tough place to be, emotionally and physically for an extrovert like me.

He deepens our walk with Him.

When I feel most alone is when God takes those opportunities to show me He was, and is, enough. Isn’t it in our times of greatest need or struggle that we cry out to Abba, Father and He so graciously brings comfort? I find solace in His promises for me. It is during those moments, my walk and dependence is fully on Him, rather than on others. Please don’t misunderstand me; I am not saying that you need to be alone, or cut off your godly friendships in order to grow deeper in your walk with the Lord. What I am saying is that He uses all our circumstances and situations to continually mature us in our walk with Him.

He emboldens us

I love how God shows us that we are capable of more. He tells us,“…be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” –Joshua 1:9b Had He not sent me to a place of such extremes—what I sometimes call my “wilderness”—I would have missed out on some of the greatest experiences of my life thus far. Sometimes a change of scenery, (or state, or country) is just what is necessary to change our perspective and push us to new heights. So don’t be afraid to get your feet wet. Dive in.

He blesses us

We’ve been able to see and experience things and places I could never have imagined (there are things that I have witnessed with my own eyes that will never be properly, proportionately, or accurately portrayed in a photo or video or facebook post). Sharing those experiences with our kids (including one, who was born in Alaska), is even better! However, beyond the sights and experiences, He has blessed us with incredible friendships as a result of those relocations and moves. Sweet, loving, deep friendships I otherwise never would have had.

Change is never easy, and relocating to new places can seem rather daunting, but remember that He goes before you. He has hemmed you in. Looking back, I can honestly tell you, by His grace, I have a love for the places we’ve been to and would go back willingly. On the other hand, I welcome the opportunity with both hands up, to allow God to show me something new and fresh, to take me where I’ve never been and to make it incredible.

How about you? How will you handle this next season of change? Would you be willing and open to His purpose and plan for you? Be willing to step out of your comfort zone and let God show you what He can do! Join the conversation and leave a comment below

Jenny KoJenny is a stay-at-home-mom to three children ranging in age from 16 to 6 years old. She and her husband David, an Army Chaplain, have been married for 19 years. She loves the military community and the ministry of PWOC (Protestant Women of the Chapel). She enjoys cooking and sharing her love of cooking with others. She marvels at this incredible life she has been given and the journey God has taken her on and continues to lead her in.

Linking up today with my friend Kristin over at Three-word Wednesday and having a little Coffee for your Heart with Holley.  Oh! And be sure to join our #EverydayJesus link-up community right here at 7 Days Time every Thursday!

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Overlooked by God #WilcoWednesday

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Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Share. Enjoy. Interact. Welcome a very Godly, loving woman, my friend Bobbie. 
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“You saw the affliction of our fathers in Egypt, and heard their cry by the Red sea.” ~Nehemiah 9:9

The poet Langston Hughes writes, “Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.” As my eyes, ears, and heart are open to people around me the sense that many feel overlooked by God comes through clearly. The affliction and struggles of this life lead some to conclude that God is not present or that He does not care. Even believers, besieged by trial and pain, may be tempted to believe that God does not see them or has overlooked them. [Read more…]

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Living with Intent #WilcoWednesday

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Welcome to Wilco Wednesday! If you are a new around these parts, “Wilco” is Army-speak for “Will Comply.” Think of it as saying “Roger, God. Got it. Will do.”  So that is what Wednesday here at 7 Days Time is all about– exploring his decrees and seeking guidance for what complying with Him looks like in everyday life. The best part? He loves us for who we are, not what we do.  Remember: He doesn’t want perfection, just obedience. Share. Enjoy. Interact. Welcome a very Godly, loving woman, my friend Bobbie. 
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“He who gathers crops in summer is prudent, but he who sleeps during harvest is a disgrace.”
~Proverbs 10:5

What would compel a farmer to “sleep” during harvest time? Given serious consideration, one may be able to discover a few reasons. Sickness, depression over a recent loss, commitment to an urgent need elsewhere, or inadequate help or resources.

These reasons are serious and heartrending and don’t seem to capture the Scripture’s assessment of the one who sleeps. The person who has not made provision for crops to be brought in can be characterized as foolish, unwise, a poor steward, excessively wasteful, even contemptuous in her own plenty. Looked at another way, that sleeper is unaware, uninvolved, detached from the important matters at hand, lacking in foresight, and simply inattentive. [Read more…]

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