A while back, I stood in our scantly-equipped kitchen. Plastic silverware and paper plates sat on the counter next to the loaf of bread (and the espresso machine named Juan Valdez #BecausePriorities).
Our little family was finishing up our latest PCS. We had arrived at our final destination, found a wonderful house that met our needs, and now we were just waiting on the delivery of our household goods.
So yes, there I stood, looking around our bare kitchen, dreaming, planning, thinking… all of which are fave hobbies of mine with any PCS.
My Beloved Husband was getting ready to head out the door for another day of in-processing on post, and I asked him, “Hey, Beloved. Where should we put the microwave?”
He looked at me and blinked as if I had grown a third eye or was speaking in a foreign language. (I AM working on my Spanish to accommodate our new duty station location, but I am far from fluent… yet.)
His response to my microwave-placement question: “Uh, I don’t really care.”
My first response (internally) was that of offense. What do you MEAN you don’t care? This is our home, and putting it together is a dream we can dream together!
Then, I paused and realized he really doesn’t care where we put the microwave, and that’s ok!
I will pause as you applaud my evolving Army wife filter.
I laughed to myself, because I remembered back to the beginning of our romantic relationship that started just shy of a decade (what?!?!) ago. I really would have been offended by his indifference to the microwave placement. THE AUDACITY! Somehow, my emotional self would have interpreted that as how he feels about me and our (future) family.
But when it comes to microwave placement (and some other minor things related to Household 6) my husband really doesn’t care because he trusts me to take care of it.
Kind of a cool perspective, right?
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“These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us.” ~2 Corinthians 4:17 MSG
