I sure sang some weird songs growing up.
Well, I mean they didn’t SEEM weird at the time. But now as a grown-uppish kind of person, I have started to learn about the “background” info of some childhood tunes.
“London Bridge” is rumored to be about a viking siege, child prisoners or a colossal architectural disaster.
“Ring around the Rosie” is based on a song created about a plague. Yeah. The “ring” was a rash. The “posey” was something an afflicted person carried in their pocket to ward off the symptoms of the disease. And I bet you can figure out what “Ashes, ashes, we all fall down!” was referring to. #UmYikes
Can’t I just be five years old and naive again?
Recently, I was thinking about another song that we sang in elementary music class… The One-Eyed, One-horned, Flying Purple People Eater.
Did I ever actually LISTEN to the lyrics? How am I not scarred for life?
Admittedly, this song was meant to be silly and light-hearted. But the insinuation of eating humans seems like something of a nightmare.
And for some reason, I realized with just a slight name-tweak of that “monster,” I get a result that scares me even now as an adult.
The Purple People PLEASER.
That monster is almost more scary than its original counterpart.
Because as a Christian, people-pleasing can derail our heart, our focus and even our mission in the blink of an eye.
I should know. I AM a recovering people pleaser.
This year has been on of the most challenging and rewarding years of leadership and ministry. I am pretty sure that I have ticked more people off or offended them (unintentionally, of course) in the last six months than I have in the last 4.5 years of working for Jesus.
Most days, I stay rooted in truth and while those offenses and unpleased people/strangers/acquaintances in my life make my heart tear up a little bit , I am able to get all Taylor Swifty and shake it off.
Well, that is until lately.
It’s a long, heart-cracking, ugly-crying story, but in short: I have recently had some pretty serious misunderstandings with a friend. And a few other folks in my ministry circle.
So when all of these powers converged (with Satan stirring the pot) I realized my identity in Christ was not quite as solid as I thought.
My tendency was to fall back into the purple-people-pleasing mode. For a 24 hour chunk of time, I lost sight of God’s truths and was completely convinced that I was a fail in all the areas in all the things. Just because a handful of folks didn’t agree with me.
But my sweet, truth-telling, encouraging husband (who is absolutely NOT a people pleaser) gave me some great tips to “check” my actions and if I was resting in God or relying on people to fill up my bucket.
If you are currently battling your people pleasing monster, I encourage you to cross-check your cracked, wobbly heart with the following questions:
- Do you fully believe that your roles/decision are done of obedience to God? (If yes, keep going.)
- Do the people “questioning” you have spiritual authority over you? (If no, keep going.)
- When others approach you in offense/confrontation, did they do it in a Godly way or out of emotion? (If out of emotion, give grace and shake it off…)
- Did you sin in response to their approach? (If yes, seek their forgiveness.)
This formula (or arsenal, maybe?) really helped to give me the perspective I needed to regain my bearings in Jesus. Yes, I was genuinely hurt in how the events shook down, but I didn’t have to be defined by them. Ultimately, my greatest concern is to love God and love His people.
Are you a victim to the scary one-eyed, one-horned, flying purple people pleaser? If so, how do you combat that? Join the conversation and leave a comment here.
Oh, one more really helpful tool if you struggle with the people pleasing monster. Memorize Proverbs 29:25 in The Message:
“The fear of human opinion disables; trusting in God protects you from that.”
And THAT’S the bottom line. #BeGoneMonster
Trusting Him,
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